Hard to Let Go

Just friends..?

Could I ever find it in myself to be just friends with someone who claimed he loved me yet treated me unfairly. Who asked for kindness from me but treated me with cruelty when I wanted reassurance.

I cannot even think of the past or future with him now.

I am finding it hard to put together the puzzle- the person he says he is and the selfish words coming from his mouth & his actions thus far. I feel I have been lied to, manipulated, and tossed aside. Like a plaything of a child.

I ask myself if I am being vindictive. But its a quiet, tired voice that says.. “Enough.. enough. Its time to move on.”

My diary is littered with pieces of my heart. Its not the first time I felt this way.

What is keeping me calm is reading this book

“A Call to Compassion- Bringing Buddhist Practices of the Heart into the Soul of Psychology” by Aura Glaser.

It is a book written with much love for humanity and self. It is just 207 pages, but its been one of the best books I ever read on compassion in the Buddhist form.

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I feel that I had progressed a little over this past year. I had moments of clarity and gratitude to the world. I felt lighter. Then when I thought I was ready to move on & remove my emotional ties to him, his confession put me in a tailspin. I was not as grounded as I thought, and in hindsight, this was a major setback for me.

I have to acknowledge my emotions to myself, even if it is hard to let anyone know. I will try not to wallow if I can help it.

I think about vengeance, in the form of wanting to be someone he will regret leaving- then these thoughts seem funny for a laugh and a small wise voice tells me to be compassionate to myself. I think its a result of reading the book by Aura..

There is this aphorism in the book which says “Be grateful to everyone” or “Meditate on everyone as kind”. It means, even “those who insult and irritate us are the most difficult subjects for gratitude, and the most fruitful. [..] Contemplating the kindness of others means hat, whatever their intentions, we can still benefit from whatever others do. Rather than submit to resentment or hatred, rather than nursing a grudge or denying a problem, we opt for a way to further open the heart. [...] Being grateful to everyone means also being grateful for everything. It means just being grateful- unconditionally. Be grateful for the difficulties, and be grateful for the relief of these difficulties.”

It is all very wise.. & hard to do.. but I shall try to see this whole situation as beneficial.

What every girl should know :)

I think most girls, including myself, are too busy trying to please someone that we all forget what we’re made of. We’re all seeking to be the perfect girl that we didn’t even realize that being ourselves is a lot better than trying to be someone we are not. We try to change for someone who wouldn’t even look at us in the first place. We try our best to be the girl that he ‘wants’ rather than showing him that even though we are not ‘perfect’ in every angle, we will make him happy and loved. Please realize that if you want to change for the better, do it for yourself, not because someone would love you that way. Would it be sweeter if he loves you for who you are?

It’s hard to pull off a mask forever. Don’t be who you’re not. Trust me, what’s inside that mask will soon find his man. I realized that I don’t need to wear a mask to impress people. It’s always the heart that matters. Your character is so much important than the appearance. I know it’s a cliché to say that. But it’s true. There are still guys out there who would prefer to have a girl that would love them and be with them against odds. So whenever you look in the mirror, please don’t say that you’re not good enough.

Someday, someone would fall for you for who you are-for what truly matters.